A simple treatment could have saved this 13-month-old's life

I know these words will cross the page many times on this blog. As a mom, I surely know the difference between the sniffles and a life-threatening condition that requires immediate attention from a medical professional, like if my just turned 1 baby boy starts puking up stomach bile.

Hell, I freaked out when the whole house got a nasty stomach bug and couldn't keep food down for days, but not this former Phoenician mom, who now lives in Surprise, Arizona. Even after both she and her husband were advised by a doctor to take their boy to the emergency room — he had run a fever for days and was puking up bile after all — they both came up with an excuse not to and the little guy died from acute peritonitis, a treatable condition.

At least they called the doctor, I guess.

Poor mom was suffering from high blood pressure that day (boohoo) and dear old dad was just too tired from helping his in-laws move (awwww). What I don't get is why, in any of the preceding days when they were feeling good, they didn't call the doctor about they baby's high temp, or hell, take him in for a quick check to make sure it was nothing serious.

What seems to be because of sheer laziness and lack of care, a baby boy won't live to see his second birthday. Makes me want to scream. Mom is facing both murder and child abuse charges, though dad has not been charged with anything yet (what gives?). To me, he seems just as guilty as her.

Find out more about peritonitis here, and read the whole story on azstar.net by clicking on the link below.

I can't take him, you do it

Eating your mom's food could get you a crack on the head with a hammer

While investigating a tip that a middle schooler had been hit with a hammer, a Department of Child Services caseworker found three children living in filth, suffering from hunger and poor hygiene. And, yes the boy had been hit by his 32-year-old mother — three times — with a hammer.

As if being sent to your room isn't punishment enough, especially if your room contains a sheetless bed you share with your brother and no electricity. Not in this Fort Wayne house. No, here if you dare eat your mom's food, she will beat you with a hammer. The boy  originally told investigators that he had been jumped at the park, but later admitted it was his mother who had hit him between the eyes, on the leg and on the arm.

Though there was income coming into the home via social security, there was no electricity or food in the home to help feed this boy and his two siblings. Yet, in one room empty beer cans and liquor bottles were strewn about. Glad someone is getting some nutrition.

Thanks to a tip from Stop Child Abuse and Neglect (SCAN), the boy was treated and the mom is being charged with three counts of felony neglect, which seems a little mild considering the circumstances. Hammers are hard. Really hard. She could have killed her son.

It is good that they got out of the home before this turned into something worse. Hopefully, they remain safe.

Read the original story as it appears on wane.com by clicking below.

I said, "Don't eat my food!"

Even if you think a baby is dead, you shouldn't leave him in the yard

As it says in the article, this one defies logic.

Obviously this Louisiana mother of three, now four, has raised some good kids, albeit with an oblivious father. After all, it was her 13-year-old son who found the ailing newborn — umbilical cord still attached — in the yard crying and took action to save him. I shudder to think what may have happened if his mom had not already left for work, since obviously this fourth child was not wanted.

Dad claims he did not know his wife had given birth sometime the previous day, which I believe because some men just do not pay attention, even if their wife is writhing in pain and spending a lot of time in the bathroom. It is thought this Pearl River woman kept her pregnancy hidden from everyone but her family, another fact I believe. Recently, a woman at my child's school had a baby, and she never, ever looked any chubbier than she already was before the birth.

The 35-year-old woman claimed she thought the baby was dead, so she did the obvious, left it in the backyard for the gators, skeeters and nutria to take care of — kidding. I will give her credit, in that, if she really wanted to dispose of the child she probably would have just thrown it in the trash. She left it in her own backyard wrapped in a towel, so there was the possibility that someone would find it, leaving me to think that somewhere deep down she did not want the baby to die. But, with all the options — Louisiana does have a Safe Haven Law — available these days, it is hard to feel sympathetic.

As of this writing, the baby is "improving" and the mean mom is in jail. She is being charged with cruelty to a juvenile and child desertion. A link to the story appears below.


Every baby for himself

Parents don't treat son's treatable cancer, and now he's dead

OK, this one I just don't get.

When one of my kids get a fever, I call the doctor. If there's green snot, we make an appointment. If he's begging me to go to the doctor, we are there.

According to prosecutors, an 8-year-old boy did just that — begged his parents to take him to a doctor. Instead, they treated his swollen glands and discomfort with cold medicine for months.

There are other terrible details of the story. They claim that an $87 vet visit to treat a pit bull for fleas was paid for by the mom's parents, who owned the dog. The couple had six children, but were unable to secure any insurance coverage for their brood. Reports state that some social workers urged them to get care for the boy, while another said to hold off until they had money to pay for it.

To top it off, the Mean Mom's attorney is using this defense: "Given her education and background, [she] didn't realize the boy was seriously ill and was treating him with cold medication."

WHAT?!?

A non-Mean Mom is going to know when her kid has the sniffles or is dying. Heck, a non-Mean Mom would probably take her severely ill child to the doctor whether the money was there or not.

I am sure, at least I hope, that this Mean Mom wishes things had gone differently.

She and the boy's father are no longer together. Her other kids got taken away from her and now she is going to jail. Her life kind of sucks, too.

At least she has a life.

Click below for a link to a story on  ABC News.

You'll be OK, honey

Who keeps a coffin in the cellar?

Punishing your kid should not revolve around locking them in anything, taping them to anything or stapling their loose flesh to particle board.

But, sometimes it does.

Not this time, but close.

This couple, which consists of a mom and step dad, decided that one of their little ones, the 7-year-old, was causing too much trouble and should be sent to the basement. Without pants or food.

Diapering a 7-year-old for no other reason that you're locking them in the basement and there is no bathroom down there is not an excuse. They could pee on the floor no problem. It would dissipate, evaporate and somethingelserate and be no big deal.

Doing it because you are locking them in a coffin in the basement makes sense, since if they made a mess in there, their time spent may be a lot less than the time it takes for you to get done whatever was so important that you needed to get done ASAP, so YOU LOCKED YOUR KID IN AN EFFING COFFIN. IN THE BASEMENT. WITH NO BATHROOM.

I am sure he had no food either.

Ugh.

How, why? Is all I have to say.

Click on the link below to read the story as it appears on timesleader.com.

Don't lock your kid in a coffin — EVER

Once an abuser always an abuser

This one was a little too close for comfort. Not only did it happen in my hometown, but they took the toddler to the medical center that is attached to the College of Medicine where I work. And, she is the same age as my precious little boy.

I don't know, but for some reason when I read a story that I knew took place really close to me — like that time the police helicopter was circling my neighborhood and the spotlight shined right on my yard and the next day I found out that an armed robber hit the smoke shop on Grant and was loose in the hood — it increases my heartrate and makes my bones shake.

Anyway, this mother of five. Ahem, this 23-year-old mother of five, was arrested on suspicion of abusing her children. Her 21-month-old child was rushed to the hospital after a 911 call that reported "seizure-like activity." Her 3-year-old was taken in, too. Supposedly, the mother bit and hit both children on a regular basis.

Wow.

Sadly, the little girl died, and initial reports stated she was malnourished and hit. One report stated that she had a, "non-existent blood-sugar level."

Maybe if the 2010 case against this mean mom, the one that acquitted her of abusing her then-4-year-old daughter had gone differently, this little girl would have lived.

I guess we'll never know.

A link to the story appears below.

Two times too many

Old enough to know better, dumb enough not to care

This mom thinks that shopping with a baby is hard

A 31-year-old Florida mother had a deep urge to take advantage of one of Macy's 365-day a year One-Day Sales. Not wishing to become distracted, or — don't say it — have to change a diaper while scouring the racks, she decided to leave her 2-year-old in the car.

Sure, we've all dreamed of just running in and picking up a few things without having to do the unbuckle, rebuckle, but none of us actually do it, because it is against the law in most states, AND we would never leave our kids in the car unattended. Alone. Cold. Hungry.

OK, so Florida is not freezing this time of the year, and she didn't leave the car running and lead an hose from the window to the exhaust, but how hard is it to shop Macy's with a toddler. All you need to do is carry him to a buggy, strap him and and push him around. Yes, the elevators and less convenient than the escalators, but the experience is so much better for you — you know your child is safe — and your child — who experiences a social "event" — that it is worth it.

What makes this story even worse, is that she lied about having left her 12-year-old in the car as well, and her absence meant that she had "run away or was abducted." Jeez.

Below is the link to the story, which appears on WTSP.com, Tampa Bay's Tampa Bay Channel 10 News.

Wait here, I need to buy stuff



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Journal of the abused

Foster mom in prison, niece dead, nephew damaged

When you are old enough to be writing in a journal about abuse you endure, it has gone on for too long without consequences. Sadly, the consequences for this foster Mean Mom seem peachy compared to the teen who lost her life.

Sure, she has mental problems, and, yes, the San Francisco Human Services Agency, which was overseeing the twins' care was to blame as well. But, only 69 years for a crime this heinous?

And, I can't get over the tidbit about how she did not abuse her own children, yet tortured her foster twins. Something tells me she did have some level of control she was not using. 

Even though the poor girl and her twin brother were physically and mentally abused, she still wrote in journal that "I want so bad to have a better relationship with her," and "I love her so much."

this sure does make you realize the need for love and protection that all children crave. The Mean Mom was her aunt, but the only mother figure she ever had, and that evil witch locked her in a closet where she died, naked and malnourished.

Makes me want to scream. 

A link to the full story as printed in the Contra Costa Times below.

Foster mom goes crazy

The Meanest Moms

It's rare that my oldest kid — the one that can talk — tells me I'm mean. If he does, I always think back to what one of my wisest friends once said, "I'm not mean, I'm Mom." It makes me feel better.

Most of the things I do to my kids that are mean are yell a little too loud, not allow candy before breakfast and refuse to buy them whatever flashy item catches their eye at the store.

Most of the things my mom did to me that I thought was mean were not let me swim in the neighbor's pool, not let me ride my bike out of the driveway and dress me and do my hair just like my sister for years and years and years.

This doesn't come close to some of the meanness that some moms have towards their kids.

I for one can not imagine wanting to harm my kids so much that it lands them in the emergency room.

I could not handle stuffing their bodies in a trash bag and setting them out on the curb on pick-up day.

There is no way I could break one of their bones on purpose, though I do admit to stepping on a Lego creation that was in the wrong place at the wrong time.

This blog is about moms who go way farther than pinching back, denying sweets and saying "No."

This blog highlights some of the meanest moms in the world, and features news stories from around the Internet. It will make you feel better.

If violence against children makes you cry, I suggest you close this window now. If it spurs you into action, you have come to the right place.

In the near future, I am going to research some worthy organizations that deserve donations and set up a spot here where you can do that. In the meantime if you have any suggestions, let me know.